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I would love more input from the experiences of others.
I would especially love to hear back from my Japanese friends with their thoughts and perspectives on the topic. Any more I can learn will only serve myself and others better. Japan, and as I understand it most of Asia, has a very different dating culture than that of the West.
In Western dating one would only tell someone “I love you” after being boyfriend and girlfriend for a good amount of time.
One says those words only with someone they feel they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
This article is mostly for the benefit of Western readers.
However, I feel it can also help Japanese readers who would like to better understand the Western perspective of Japanese dating.
Saying those words makes the thing real and in the open.
Obviously how soon they are willing to have sex after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend is based on the individual.
The use of kokuhaku is also a bit of a culture shock for Westerners.
I don’t just mean sex, but kissing and I think even hand holding. Attempting a kiss can make a Japanese person think you are only interested in sex or a physical relationship and not a serious or romantic relationship. For example, often a Westerner will want to kiss someone they are seeing and the Easterner doesn’t want to be kissed yet.
The Westerner will think the Easterner isn’t interested in a relationship with him/her.